‘K’ was a very reluctant referral; a man not wanting or knowing how to express that he needed help or even how to open up. He was also an intensely proud man who had always paid his way in the world, worked hard and had a mature understanding of his role in and responsibilities to society. A long-term UK born Jersey resident, he was in his mid-late forties when he first sought help.
‘K’ was almost classically a victim of the economic downturn and with that one major problem came a raft of other issues that led him to crisis point. The loss of his job placed a strain on an already volatile relationship; that in turn led ‘K’ to start drinking heavily and with that came low-level mental health problems, depression and a heightened level of anxiety. When it all became too much, he was hospitalised and this is where Sanctuary Trust came in.
We first met ‘K’ whilst he was in hospital an the first task was to make him see that he deserved help and support and that there was nothing wrong or abnormal in how he was feeling or what he was going through. He took a place, reluctantly, at St. Aubin and so began the work of helping him regain strength, renew, heal and feel strong enough to face the world again. The heightened anxiety diminished and with that the level of support from external services also reduced. ‘K’ started to engage with us and the other men; willingly becoming involved in voluntary activities and actually started helping us with his practical skills – he had a life-time experience of the building trade. Whilst doing very practical voluntary work, a chance encounter led to some occasional and casual paid work. ‘K’ soon moved to our Beaumont property and from there things happened rapidly. He started working full-time and his energy, skill and obvious ability allowed him to pursue his own sub-contracting work.
After a year, ‘K’ left us but we maintained contact, until gradually he felt he no longer needed that support. He is now a highly successful and sought-after builder, with work literally stacked up, he has been able to offer work in varying degrees to other men living with Sanctuary and also finds time to help others in need with practical support or advice. He has recently been to see us and he is very clear in his message: Sanctuary Trust literally saved him and gave him the chance to enjoy the life he is now able to lead. Job done!